I'm probably overly worrying about this..
I'm going to a language school in the winter and I think the dorms will be split by gender.
I'm female, but I dress quite neutral/masculine and have a very short haircut (I get it done at the barber so it's more masculine style). I don't have a problem being in the women's dorms, of course as I am a woman, but I am a bit worried because sometimes people that only see me for short time (such as shop people) think I'm male, especially if I wear baggy clothing that hides my secondary sex characteristics. I also have broad shoulders, which is just my body type, but I've never been the most feminine woman out there. Honestly I'm not trying to make any statement, I just wear very comfortable clothes and don't care to be feminine!
I don't want to ask the school because I don't want to bring up some problem that may not even be a problem? But is it likely that there's going to be awkward issues with the staff/students at the female dorm? I know it seems ridiculous, but I've had old an old woman challenge me in women's toilets in my country, and my country is much more accepting of 'differences' than Japan is. That was also completely ridiculous by the way: "you're a man" "no I'm not" "yes you are"??? What do you want me to do at that stage, strip?
I don't have any problem with trans women, but I really am born female. I'm hoping that there's no such ridiculous person there and at most the dorm just goes with what's in my passport and that's the end of it.
by Far_Reward1928