Lonely in a crowd – is it actually possible to have deep connections in Tokyo?

I have been living in Tokyo for almost a decade now (European, F33) .
And yet, I still feel like a ghost moving through the city.

I’m not new here, and I’m not looking for nightlife tips or dating apps. I’m just wondering:
Has anyone found real, grounded connection here? Not surface-level chats, but something that feels seen. Human.

I love books, quiet bars, strange music, long walks.
I miss the feeling of real presence in a conversation — the kind where both people walk away feeling slightly changed.

So here’s my question:
How do you cope, if this city sometimes feels like it’s happening around you, not with you? (I feel like I ran out of all of my options at this point)

And is anyone else here… still looking?