I broke up ~1y ago and took some time for myself. I recently decided to start using dating apps and see how it goes (never used before).
Since I'm fluent in Japanese, I went directly for Pairs.
In the last 3 weeks, I've been out to 6 dates.
OMG if I'm having a bad experience.
- First girl we go for lunch. I pay, decent conversation. At the end I tell her that I'd like to spend some more time with her and gave her my Line. I told her to reach out if she feels the same. She reaches out and says she wants to go to Monzenakacho – yeah, sure, why not. We pick a day and time and keep chatting in the meantime. The day of the date she stops replying to my messages and she doesn't show up lol
- Second girl we go for dinner. She tells me that she's been with 5 different foreigners in the last two years.. I don't ask her Line, she doesn't get back, fair enough I'd say.
- Third girl we go for dinner. Very nice conversation, we stay at the restaurant ~3hs. She likes watching YouTubers playing games, I'd recommend one to watch to her. We exchange Line. The next morning she reaches out saying that she's watched my recs and we chat a bit. I reply again after work and she never replies anymore lol
- Fourth girl we go for lunch. We don't connect much, fair enough
- Fifth girl we do for dinner. Great convo, she's fun and we drink quite a bit. We exchange Line as usual, she reaches out to thank for the dinner the same night and we keep chatting. After ~20mins of chatting she stops replying and disappears.
- Sixth girl we go for dinner on weekday, since she's busy. I go out of work a bit earlier to meet her – 15 mins before the appointment she sends a message asking if we can move the date because "it might start to rain". I say okay, sure – She never replies anymore.
Not sure if I'm doing something wrong, but I've dated before in Japan and this is completely opposite of my previous experiences lol Just wanted to rant about it, curious if others have had similar experiences recently.
by Mikeye92