It is not my intention to create an inflammatory post, but I would like to hear other people’s opinion as it is a little-discussed topic.
From my experience after living 3 years in Japan, I quickly learned that it’s a very conservative society (racist and xenophobic) with a strong emphasis on “preserving” tradition.
After dating multiple Japanese women and having a girlfriend, I learned that Japanese society really dislikes the idea of Japanese women dating foreign men, and does everything to prevent it. From the restaurant staff staring at my date, to my girlfriend hiding our relation from her father or rarely going out or holding hands as she felt uncomfortable.
This doesn’t apply to Japanese men dating foreign women, though. Expected in a misogynistic society.
Now I know there are exceptions. Probably in some areas like Tokyo. And if you are a white man from Europe, Australia or the US. Japanese tend to look up to white Europeans and associate them with wealth. And still, I know of white Europeans with a Japanese girlfriend who rarely go out with them.
Japanese women are under pressure by society, parents and friends to not date foreign men. And this only led to frustration and losing potential partners who I really cared about.
This is the symptom of a sick society fueled by nationalism. I would prefer to not read weebs making excuses under the pretext of “culture”.
by legend0102