I (F; American) have a 4 year old (turned 4 a few months ago) with my spouse (M, Japanese) whom is having a lot of difficulty at hoikuen since moving up to the biggest kid class (very rural so 4-6 year olds are in the same class) in April.
His teachers said he "has something wrong with him," meaning a teacher literally has to be assigned to him to help with basic stuff. Its something I dont understand because he does these fine at home (changing clothes, brushing teeth, etc), but I admit we need to work on his speech and work on his "No" stubbornness. I practice trying to hold a conversation about his day, though he struggles with telling me what he did. Everything I ask like if he went outside, ate rice, etc (which I know he did) he only says "No, janai"
I was told his Japanese is terribly behind compared to the other kids his age, too. At home he uses English with me but Japanese with grandparents (we live together).
The comments by sensei in his book are always negative, never positive. I feel super stressed when I pick him up because its just bad news. They let him miss the weekly English classes and swimming because he takes forever getting dressed alone (gets very distracted). They think he is developmentally delayed and wants to talk to us next week.
Has anyone ever gone through this experience? I'm super worried about this and I feel really alone in the situation. My spouse is very unsupportive and says "he's probably autistic" ….
by Independent_Put27