It’s been close to a month now, but this guy… I am exhausted, a bit scared and my rationale tells me to run. I was the perfect candidate to be manipulated.
So what has he done?
– He keeps on making promises, but not holding them.
– He lies about his work, likely. I assume recruiter/nightlife worker… Former host, he says.
– He lovebombed me so hard I grew attached as I was very vulnerable.
– He tries to make me pregnant, ”whens your cycle?”, he is intentionally super unsafe about intimacy. ”I would marry you if so.”
– Vague threats, ”You know those who hurt you, I could make them just… disappear. Not saying anything bad will happen.”
– Introduced me to the entire underground scene of my small city…
– ”Police are bad, you know.”
– Loves to keep me hanging, ”im sorry i ignored you for two days straight, I had a fever, you want me to die, huh?”
– His friends kept on talking about my body, tried to get me to say I would please them, the guy said nothing and I was looking at him, begging for him to make it stop. Same with his boss.
– Contacts me on different numbers.
– Says he is not yakuza, sure as hell has friends who are.
– Knows where I live, wants to know my code, knows my number…
Tbh his good days feel like utter bliss, I feel so happy. But then I feel this mental exhaustion, he is mentally draining me, not giving me autonomy to my body and I can’t see myself. Then he lovebombs. Repeat.
I remember the first days, I was shit scared, I wanted to call the police as he stood outside my door. I did not. I instead got sad later that day, and went with him. I genuinely can’t do this anymore. I feel like his affection is fake, or he genuinely has affection mixed with bad intentions.
Im scared to just shut things off, because of his ties, and I often need to frequent the area he works.
So what’s the best solution to make him want to ignore me? I already have a former policeman/detective kind of guiding me at school for a traumatic event that happened, I am an international student so the school prioritizes my safety, they say.
I genuinely don’t know what to say, like ”oh so i told my counselor this.. now the school is monitoring me so i don’t hurt myself… this police officer basically adopted me— i know you dislike them so it’s better to keep distance right? I don’t want anything bad happening to you” (partially true) Or I could go full insane and scare him that way. Idk.
I know i should listen to my intuition for this one and get rid of him.. please help me. What can I do?
by AstronomerBig3623