24M and I’ve been here for 8 years. I’ve had three relationships with Japanese partners and some situationships, but the longer I stay the more tired I get with the dating scene here.
Most relationships I’ve had with Japanese partners just feels so, so shallow.
I put time and effort in, but people act like partners are only a tiny step above friends. No one fully opens up, no one fully commits, and nobody below their 30s seem to date with the future in mind. When one single conflict happens, it often ends quickly as it starts.
Out of fifty or so couples in their late 20s I’ve talked to over the years, hardly anyone said they were dating with long-term plans in mind.
I just feel so drained for trying to have a genuine long-term relationship. Feels like the whole culture encourages selfishness and satisfaction so much over commitment, which seems to make cheating and flakiness even more common.
Is it just me? How have your experiences been?
Edit 1: By commitment, I don’t necessarily mean marriage. I’m talking about putting in real effort to build something long-term. I’m not planning to marry before 28 AND before I’m financially and emotionally stable. Sorry for not making it clear.
Edit 2 : Opinions and advices are welcome, but the slanders? Really guys? Apparently having standards in a relationship is forbidden if you're young and balding. Wiild.
by Yuugenshu