Translation for “Judgemental” in Japanese?

Not sure if this is the right sub but I am looking for a way to express my feelings.

Last evening I was talking to my bf on my phone and I mentioned that I missed some lectures by some award winners in an academic conference we attended together last year as PhD students. To that he responded "それは無いわ" in a rather serious tone because he regards those lectures to be somewhat important. Now that was triggering to me because I felt judged, and that was such a small thing to be judged for. I tried to explain how I felt with some desparate attempts with metaphors etc.. but at the end he did not seem to get it. He clarified by saying "well it is unthinkable FOR ME to miss those lectures but you do you", which is.. still judgemental and even condescending.

This is not the first time he said something judgemental to me so the things added up and I might have overreated. So probably I did not do the best job, I lashed out and became passive aggressive instead of being vulnerable. I want to properly talk to him about it but then how do I do all this IN JAPANESE? Does any of you know how to explain the idea of "being judgemental" or "passive aggressive"? thx.