Hello Reddit. I’m a 25 female, and I came to Tokyo this July on a working holiday visa. I’ve been enjoying my life here a lot, since I’ve always wanted to spend an extended period of time in Japan.
After a long and discouraging job search, I eventually got hired by a cafeteria chain. I was genuinely happy about it, because working in a cafeteria had been one of my dreams. Although I learn things slowly and tend to be clumsy at work, I’ve been gradually getting used to the job thanks to my kind and supportive coworkers. I truly appreciate them.
However, today was the moment when I seriously started questioning whether I should keep this part-time job.
My boss spoke to me in a very condescending way in front of both customers and other staff, treating me like I was a stupid child. It was humiliating.
I understand that being corrected or spoken to about mistakes is part of the job, and I accept that. What made me consider quitting, though, is that it became clear that his attitude toward me is noticeably different from how he treats other employees. Whenever I make a mistake—especially when my lack of Japanese causes delays or confusion—he becomes much more snappy with me compared to how he reacts when Japanese staff do.
I know I’m not good at picking things up quickly, and I know I deserve to be corrected when I mess up. But what hurts is that I don’t see the same level of harshness directed at others.
I’m also aware that I’m a certified people-pleaser, which may have contributed to the way he treats me in the first place. I can’t help wondering whether staying in an environment where I feel constantly belittled is the right choice. Maybe I should say to him I want to quit and look for another job…? I'd appreciate any advice. Thank you so much for reading!
by Chinonondash