So I married my wife over 10 years ago and this year we moved to Japan. My wife works over 40 hours a week in a job that is mentally exhausting (IT support). I work less than 15 hours a week (due to a job offer falling through). We live in the middle of a small rural community fairly close to our my in-laws.
Whenever we visit them or they visit us, they often comment on things they think she should be doing. For example, if they asked what we ate for dinner and they find out I cooked, they will point out that she should cook. If they spot some dust in a room, they will inform her that she needs clean more. If they find out that I did the laundry, they will shoot looks at her. If I take the used dishes from the table they will tell me to sit and that its her job.
I have repeatedly told them I have significantly more free time and energy than her so I am happy to do it yet they still pest her about things she could be doing.
I love her family to bits but this is one of the sore points for us as she often leaves these encounters feeling bitter.
It is often seen as her job because she is the wife in the house. Oh the frustration.
Do you experience this?
by Noobedup