Hi everyone, I could use some advice.
There’s a woman I went to high school with in Japan. We weren’t friends, just classmates. She’s a foreigner but grew up in Japan. I moved to Japan during high school, and now we’re all in college.
Recently, i were swiping on a dating app and came across her profile. It’s ID verified and uses recent photos. Out of curiosity, we checked her Instagram and saw that she’s been with her current boyfriend for about a year. All of the photos on her dating profile appear to be from during the time they’ve been together. He’s Japanese, and from what I can tell, he probably doesn’t know she’s on dating apps.
I made a new Instagram account and tried to follow him, but his account is private, so he hasn’t accepted it
I don’t have any personal relationship with either of them that much, and I don’t want to create unnecessary drama or cross boundaries. At the same time, I don’t like the idea of someone being cheated on without knowing.
Given that I only get one chance to message him, what should I say or I should just ignore it
Edit:
I want to clarify something since some people are assuming it might be an open relationship. According to a close friend of hers, it isn’t. Also, when I checked her Instagram, a lot of her reposts, highlights, and posts emphasize loyalty and monogamy. I’m not claiming to be an expert, but based on that, it didn’t come across to me as an open relationship, which is why I found the situation concerning. did mention earlier that she has a history of cheating so I assume she’s doing to this man as-well
If I were in his position, I’d personally hope someone would tell me so I wouldn’t keep wasting time and effort without knowing.
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