I thought paid leave was paid leave and I didn’t need proof or a reason other than personal

Ok, just a throwaway here.

Well here we GO AGAIN. I'm an ALT. So tired of this shit and having to stress over being able to use paid leave. My wife had a miscarriage and I want to be with my wife and also to just relax mentally because this week has been stressful. Yesterday was her surgery. I went in on Wednesday the day after we found out and I just shouldn't have been at work that day. I understand from their side it's like before a holiday and they want to cover their asses but I thought paid leave was paid leave and they can't make any demands.

They want proof of the miscarriage (I didn't state it was a miscarriage just family circumstances) and I feel that is very invasive and I shouldn't have to go that far. So tired of this fricken ball and chain and jumping through all these god damn hoops.