I was in a 3 year long relationship with a Japanese woman and was engaged for 6 months. She broke up with me in December 2025 and I have not contacted her since. However, I recently have been thinking about getting the engagement ring back/compensation which was around 1,000,000¥. Is she/her family under any legal obligation to return or pay for this? I've seen online that some legal systems recognise it as a conditionl gift that must be returned/paid for in the event that the engagement gets called off.
Something that might further complicate this: She broke up with me quite abruptly. One week I was taking care of her and nursing her day/night when she had food poisoning. The next week I was dumped. Naturally, on the day after the abrupt breakup, I tried to go back to her family's house to ask to see her. I was respectful, bowed at the door and asked to see her in a neutral voice. I was not disruptive or violent or anything in that manner. After being told to leave(through the voice comms), I left immediately but not before she/they had the police come on grounds of "stalking". So I now legally cannot contact her to even ask for the ring/compensation (though she did send+unsend a LINE message last month but I didn't get to see what it was).
I make a comfortable living and the money isn't that big of a deal to me, but it isn't insignificant and if possible I'd still like to get it back. I've been thinking of getting a new PC and a chair and that money more than covers it. Does anyone know of what I can do?
I am also moving back to my home country soon for work. If I can even pursue this legally, would it still be possible to continue even after I've moved out?
Edit: No I did not cheat on her or abuse her or anything of sorts. From what I understand, she lost feelings/got bored/got cold feet about engagement and marriage. Her older brother, who I managed to talk to at the time, seems to still be chill with me and he thanked me for loving her those years etc, but I'd still prefer not to bother him for this since this technically isn't his problem to fix.
by redtabletea