Hello r/japan! not sure if this is the right sub but thought I would start here. My wife was born in Beppu City, Kyushu in 1988. Her parents adopted her as an infant from an orphanage when she was a few months old. Recently, my wife decided that if it were possible, she would like to connect with her birth mother.
That being said, I was wondering if this sort of thing is Taboo in Japanese culture? We are from America and we hear a lot of these types of stories go well in the US, but I know there are many cultural differences to be cognizant of before trying to get into it. We understand that a large part of the reason her birth mother surrendered her was due to not wanting her daughter to have a rough upbringing due to the nature of her conception. My wife really just wants to let her birth mother know how much she appreciates what she did, that she harbors no resentfulness, and to tell her a little bit about how her life has been.
Looking forward to hearing if this seems to be an appropriate course of action to take (then I can add more info for any super sleuths other there), or if I need to be directed to another subreddit, or drop it entirely.
https://www.reddit.com/r/japan/comments/10k9ivy/request_questions_about_finding_birth_mother/