Hello! I recently got accepted into a university in Japan and am having trouble deciding whether I should live in a dorm for 1.5 years and then move in with my mother or live with my mother from the start. We both have Japanese nationality by the way.
I love being with her and it would be cheaper to live with her but I am worried I would regret not getting the "dorm experience" my father (and mother if I want to) encourages me to have.
I have conflicted emotions about this because I want to make friends at the dorm and think it would be cool to experience living alone but with fewer hurdles.
But then again, the dorm isn't on campus, I've heard noise complaints, I'd have to pay for dorm fees even when I'm visiting my family in Canada for 2 months over break, and the weekly program/course within the dorm and having to cook for myself every day might be too much stress for me when I have to adjust to living in Japan and being new to university.
I'd be very grateful if anyone has any advice for me!
by inokensaku