Hi everyone!
New Year's is coming up, and I was wondering if it would be weird to ask my mom's colleague (a family friend, born and raised in Japan) if I could come over for the New Year's period.
Most of my close friends where I live are leaving at the end of the month, so I'll probably end up spending it alone, or at my workplace (it's a care facility so people are always there).
We met in person for the first time earlier this year, when I stayed with her for two weeks (before then she had apparently been receiving life updates on me from my mom, and vice versa). I really enjoyed it, and I like to think I wasn't inconveniencing her too much since she has a lot of spare space. We had some interesting conversations about the news and such, and she offered me a lot of her old things that she was trying to get rid of as part of end-of-life cleanup, even though she's only in her late 50s.
Hoping to fish for an offer (which I feel is more polite in a scenario like this), I had the following conversation with her (personal details redacted):
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Me: 「名前」おばさんはお正月に普段何をしますか？
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Her: お正月は、
①お雑煮、お節料理を食べる
②初詣をする。近所の神社、または、鎌倉のお寺
③ 親族と会食
④ 友人達と出かける。有名な神社とか、歌舞伎
が典型的なお正月かな？
若い人はお休み長いから海外旅行✈️
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Me: 楽しそうです！「職場」では休みが欲しければいつも通り取らなくちゃいけませんので、多分日本に残ります。
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She then left me on read.
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I'm aware that it's hard to answer this question fully unless you personally know both me and her, but just in case someone does have an answer – is it copium for me to think I might get a yes if I ask directly? How rude is it for me to ask her directly in the first place? If I ask directly, will she feel able to say no if she doesn't want me over, or will she feel forced to say yes, and then we'll both end up having a bad time?
Thank you for your time!
Edit: Thank you to everyone for your advice! I've found a lovely festival to go to on the night of the 31st instead.
by butterfly1354