Again my monthly Reddit rant. Just got called an anti Japanese Chinese racist when I’m describing my actual experience and the decision of not actively making Japanese friends anymore.
Here my list of failed attempts
-Made two friends before coming to Tokyo on hello talk. One of them, a man that’s 10 yrs older than me tried to make it a date at our third hang out and ghosted me cuz I’m not interested. Another person was depressed from wfh.
-Tried making office friends by going to futsal nomikai, went three times, became exhausted and got sexually harassed, then stopped going.
-Went to Japanese timeleft regularly. Became close with this girl, hung out with her weekly for almost three months. Turns out she’s only trying to drag me into a cult. Cut her off on all platforms.
-started part timing in this local bar I frequented, had fun with all my coworkers, got sexually harassed by manager and tired of talks behind peoples back. Quit after that.
-hung out with a group of Japanese people with a German friend. Felt immense social pressure while hanging out with them but played along cuz everyone nice. Thought about make this my Japanese friend group because, hey, they are nice. Weeks later, heard them judging my German friend behind her back about her not trying hard enough to blend in. Stopped talking to them as well.
-tried making friends through tachi nomi at local pubs, got sexually harassed a few times and quit.
So enough with my lore drop/rant. How do ppl actually make Japanese friends? But also in someway I don’t think Japan is to blame here, adult friends are hard to make anyways, and when you try to hard, weird people pops up. I haven’t really socialize in a while, it getting scary to me again. We will get out there and make some friends next week.
by Exciting-Hair-2290