I lived in Japan during university years and heavily participated in club (not circle but a serious 部活) activities for four years. I graduated 3-4 years ago and went back to my country in Europe to work.
A few days ago i received an invitation to attend a wedding from one of my university club friends, he is from the same generation as me so we shared many memories, but it's been three years. I of course accepted the invitation despite the high cost of flights and everything, for me it's really an honour and I'd be happy to attend. However looking back to his messages, and thinking it over, it appears as maybe he was just inviting me expecting me to say no because of the high cost.
Now I’m wondering whether I misread the situation culturally and whether accepting might have put unnecessary pressure on them. From a Japanese cultural perspective, would it have been more appropriate to decline from the start? Or am I overthinking this?
Thank you in advance
by Shun_Leon